Marriage Startup

An area of pressure for me coming out of school was founding a startup. Having technical skills as an engineer and big dreams, I always felt I should have started some app or online service to create passive income.

Then I realized people who do that kind of thing tend to make sacrifices in every other aspect of their lives. Starting a business is all-consuming enough, but these high tech, Silicon Valley startups are taking on an even heavier burden. David vs. Goliath. Agile, lean, fail fast. That's all well and good if that's what you want, but part of success means achieving your goals. My goal coming out of school was to be with Carrie and enjoy a full life together in all its aspects.

It took me some time to realize it, but my marriage was my startup.

It's not quite a corporation, but it is a partnership. The success principles that guide all individuals and organizations also apply to my marriage. Instead of feeling bad for not starting a company, I read all those articles and books in light of how I can improve my marriage startup. Most notably, my body needs to operate more lean.